After Dave and I got married, I had about a week where I thought, “Wow! It’s strange to not be planning or up to our eyebrows in preparations!”
That time has passed.
With Dave now a full-time college student (way to go, baby!) and essentially a stay-at-home dad/housekeeper, me working full-time, both of us coaching Thing 2’s junior baseball team two days a week and Thing 1 in baseball practice another two days a week, we’re stretched thin. Very thin. I posted on Facebook the other day (my first post in a couple of weeks), “I wish all the running around we do for kids (and ourselves) could count as exercise and burn calories, because I’m exhausted!”
I see the benefit of all these activities, however. First, we’ve been forced to become more organized. Dinner has to be planned, and we all have to be ready to go when we need to go or the whole day gets set back. Second, we’ve been forced to do tackle activities we don’t necessarily want to tackle but are for our benefit. For example, I realized I let tasks such as balancing the budget and laundry slide over the past month and a half. Did laundry get done? Yes. But it was on an as-needed basis, rather than regular up-keep.
Now, after the boys go to bed, I’m more consious of what I do with my time. My first awareness came when I attempted to watch a movie while Dave was doing homework. At first his head turned, then his chair turned, and eventually, he would be turned all the way around, watching TV instead of doing his work. As much for me as for him, I realized there are activities I need to do, and I may as well do them while he is doing his work. He can focus on his homework done (letting us get to bed earlier), and I feel better about my massive to-do list. Coinsidently, this revelation came at about the same time as Dave read “Eat the Ugly Frog First” in one of his assignments. What does this mean? Simply put, do what needs to be done before doing what you want to do. You’ll feel a sense of accomplishment, and have one more item checked off your to-do list.
The third, and probably greatest, benefit I see, is that I see the love and support the four of us all share for each other. We are constantly there for each other, and by “we”, I truly mean ALL of us. Things 1 and 2 (and I!) are extremely excited that their “Best Dad” is in school, Dave and I are supportive of them in school and sports, and the three of them are all supportive of whatever I do. This family dynamic continues to amaze me, as it’s not what I (or the boys) knew only a couple of years ago.
I can never say it enough, but THANK YOU to all of you who have been there for me/us through the years. It’s with your love, support and encouragement that we have gotten to where we are now, and for that we are EXTREMELY grateful.